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How many times have you heard that?

I’m so over the thought that a big penis trumps EVERYTHING. Because it doesn’t. But then again it seems women are more obsessed with penis sizes than they were 10 years ago. So maybe it’s just me that is thinking like this.

However, I’m looking for more substance. When I define myself as different, it’s not me being cocky. It’s realizing that unlike most women I’m searching for something real, something permanent, something that isn’t defined by your penis size.

I value good stimulating conversations. Conversations that leave me wanting to explore your brain more. I value good values, a good up-bringing is a sincere turn on. A man that is well versed, well educated and willing to share his intelligence trumps a big penis size. In my sincere opinion all fun and jokes aside there is more to a relationship than the sexual side.

If I was 18 again, I’d find it hilarious that men reveal their penis sizes as it was a Nobel Peace Award but I’m older and I’m saddened that males don’t have more to offer. Instead of saying you have a big penis, tell me what else you have to offer. I know most men will not be educated by the books but self educated. That in itself is also a turn on because it shows that you’re interested in making a better you. Show me something in you that you can’t brag about. Share your passion with me, or your ideas for a better world. But if you want to get to know me For the love of God do not tell me about the size of your dick.

All day, I do NOT dream or think about sex. I’m not obsessed with penises. To be honest, I barely think about it. It is because I’m not having it. It’s not because no one wants me but because I’m not interested in increasing my number just because I’m single. If I wanted a FWB that is easy to find, I don’t have to look far. But where’s the challenge in that? I’m looking for something real and permanent. I’m looking for a life partner, this is the challenge.

Challenge yourself ladies. Don’t settle for something that is easy to get, like sex or a big penis. Settle for something that you’ll be proud you worked for because having it in your life makes you want to continue to strive to be the best. Good luck, believe me it is NOT easy.

Love ya’ll!

Dick, Penis and Rectangles everything seems to center around Dick these days.

What a popular person that Dick is. I’m just wondering when did everyone become obsessed with the size of a man’s package?

Would I be considered weird if I were to say that’s the absolutely last thing I care about, but even now I catch myself looking at his fingers? The first thing I look for is the wedding ring. Which nowadays is becoming more and more pointless because only women wear them. Men would probably wear their cell phones around their neck before they wear their wedding ring. The second thing I look at is his nails, if we were to get in a serious relationship and his nails were deathly long, we know who wouldn’t be getting fingered anytime soon!! That’s a rupture waiting to happen. Lastly, as the hand is concerned I find myself looking at the size of his fingers. Particularly the finger closer to the ring finger.

For those of you that haven’t caught on as yet, it has been scientifically proven that a man’s penis size can be estimated by the length of his fingers. My best friend revealed this to me during a very inebriated conversation and I always thought it was gibberish until I saw an article on it. Of course by time as we get to the sex, if we ever do, I don’t remember what I estimated from his fingers.

Uncut, well endowed, beautiful and mind-blowing are just some descriptive words women use to describe a man that has a beautiful cock. But when we’re just examining the cock from the outside we’re putting this huge expectation on it then when the sex is absolutely horrible, we have no one to blame but ourselves. No one told us to imagine that if cocks had personalities, his could walk down the street comfortably naked because it was just so beautiful.

We look down on small penises as if we were Catholic Churches and the discussion revolves around abortion. If the size of a man’s penis was revealed before women started dating them, would they be the ones looking for love at every corner? Even though their sex is probably deliciously mind blowing, women are just more interested in the bigger packages. Is it too much to say we enjoy disappointment as well?

Uncircumcised, beautiful, little penis are words we NEVER hear grouped together to describe any man. It just wouldn’t sound right, it’ll certainly halt any conversation. The truth is most women will never admit they enjoyed a small package. I guess it makes them more of a penis connoisseur? Most men are ashamed of their little packages but they should be the ones talking it up to at least change the way women think.

If I could have a Dominican dick, that was beautifully carved and of average size I’d be happy. Your penis size is tabled under “Sh!t that doesn’t matter.”All I’m concerned about is its beauty. No one wants to have sex with an ugly penis, it doesn’t even sound right. I just want something to lust at even if I don’t want the D, but that’s me I’ve been called silly often. It’s okay to laugh at me.

What would the world be like if on a first date, the woman asks the man to place his willie on the table so she can see how long or short the date will be? That’s like standing in a crowded room and just screaming, PENIS!!. It’ll be sure to get everyone’s attention but will it scare them away? I’ll be the first to admit, if you’re well endowed, thick and beautiful I might just be tempted to take a picture and just stare at it. I probably don’t want that size in me, but who says my mouth can’t water?

But the focus on a man’s size nowadays goes to show where our interests are. People aren’t interested in long term relationships, some prefer to have sex first and think about love after. It makes you seriously question the future of a society focused on the physical rather than the mental.

Have we really become that shallow or does a penis size really matter? Can we see ourselves having longer lasting relationships with men with long penises than men with packages we can barely see or feel? Think about it!

Thanks for reading! Love ya’ll!

I’m the type of person that my preferences are important. If you look at my ex boyfriends, they’d have a noticeable physical thing in common. This could be anything from color, size or height but for me it’s a combination of all 3.

Last night I enjoyed a few cocktails with some acquaintances and got to thinking, if we placed our “preferences” to the side could we find something we’ve never had? There’s this saying, that says to get what you never had you have to do what you’ve never done. It’s not quite the exact words but you get my drift. Could it be applied in the situations of dating?

If we stepped out of our box and tried something we have NEVER considered trying can we possibly find the man of our dreams?

For example, I’ll be frank and state that the astrological signs do a lot for my relationships. I’m an earth sign and I’ve read that we mesh wells with other earth signs. I remember one time in my life other earth signs were all I met and because I knew they were supposed to be our soul mates, I think I put up with more than what I usually would have. Now I look back and I’d say that is stupid as hell. Why should anything depict the guys I talk to? Although to a certain extent, the astrological signs are beneficial as there are just some signs I can’t even share oxygen with much less date. I guess we need to be cautious how far we allow these conditions to guide us in life.

As luck would have it, I’ve had more success with a sign I stay away from because it’s a hard relationship to maintain and according to the signs it’s a match that should never be. But both times I’ve been with a guy of this sign it has been my longest relationships! Ironic!

So is it just me or would stepping out of the box just a bit influence my life? Insanity is defined as doing the same thing and expecting different results, which defines what I look for physically in guys. Maybe if I go against my strict preferences in the physical aspect I may JUST find what I’m looking for.

Gosh! I feel like a picky man who has convinced himself that he will only date models as that is his order from God. It’ll take many pep talks from myself to just dive in, but I’ll give it a try and keep you guys updated.

Love ya’ll thanks for reading!

I was on twitter, when I read a post by Iyanla Vanzant which said, “Talking to others before you talk to the people involved is not a good way to start the healing process.” I felt as if she was speaking to me as lately I’ve been struggling to forgive someone who had hurt me so much.

Too many times when situations are done we walk away convincing ourselves that time heals all. That it’ll eventually go away. We discuss the issue with friends, looking for some sort of closure. But we rarely go to the person who has hurt us and speak to them.

I’ve posted blog entries of what I would say and I have since realized this is a part of healing. As Iyanla further explained in her tweets, healing is something you do, it has nothing to do with anyone but you.

Ironically when I write random pieces, it’s just to get it out, so I wouldn’t punish myself by constantly replaying situations in my head. I had no idea that what I was doing was going through a healing process, and I’m glad something constructive is coming out of this. As I have A LOT to say.

I feel that it is important that we as humans learn to forgive. Holding grudges against people whether they were friends or lovers never assists us in growing; it in fact holds us back. If we don’t allow ourselves to forgive, every person we meet can possibly pay for the mistake of what one person has done. We may never know when someone is right for us as we’ll be too busy treating him like the one person that hurt us. Take for example, The Emotionally Unavailable Man that I made reference to recently, it’s clear men that fall under that title haven’t allowed themselves to go through a healing process. As everyone that comes along suffers for the mistakes of one woman.

Most people wouldn’t think about that twice, but how about someone who has attempted to date an emotionally unavailable man? This would hit close to home because she know what it feels like to date someone who hasn’t healed. So even if it’s not you, you know people who need to just heal. Help them, make it a habit to look out for people around you. You never know when you’ll need someone to look out for you.

For me the best way to release is writing. Therefore I’m going to start writing a letter to the person who has recently hurt me the most. I’m not going to send it, but I’m going to hold it or even burn it, but I know to successfully let go I need to let it out completely.

I want to encourage all my readers to do the same. If the reason you’re hurting or angry is because of what someone has done to you join me in this season of healing and let it go. You don’t have to show anyone else, you just have to do it. It’s therapeutic and believe me you’ll feel a lot better.

But we as humans cannot possibly expect to grow if we’re holding in anger and distress. We have to forgive people to move on and become better people.

I dare you to forgive someone today!

Happy Sunday!